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Originally posted by Jamesjohn on Hints for falling back in love?:
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Originally posted by gbon:
Greg,

Something else to remember: It's not how you make her feel about you, but rather how you make her feel about herself that is truly important.

G
A double AMEN on that one!

This seems to help in most cases of depression, MLC, and general spousal neglect. (oh, wait, none of us have been guilty of that, have we?!)

Sure, a person has to feel good about themselves from within. If you fall back entirely on this fact, we become powerless, and are guilty of playing the blame game. There's a helluva lot of LITTLE things that can be done on a daily basis to help make a person feel better about themselves. And about being around you.

It was a "more of what works" for me!

Thanks, Greg! [Big Grin]
Yeah. Feeling good about yourself (from within), helps, but it's not the whole story. As much as we'd like to think that we're independent enough to be happy from within, we're social creatures, and we need validation, etc.

And, I don't think it's putting the cart before the horse to work on both at the same time.

Of course, this is more a message for your husbands, but there it is.

Andy

Andy