Piecing, but struggling

[cat03]

Hi Tracy, I might've as well sign my name instead of yours at the bottom of your post, my H was acting the very same way, his unhapiness still lingers and tells me he still feels lonely, something I resent but must face that it isnt' my fault and that it is his inner demons that he has to conquer.

Gwyn has great advice, it's like when they were gone and we sort of had to detach and not let their behavior set a pace for ours, I'm struggling big time with that concept too, I sort of expected him to just hug me and tell me he loves me... I know right now he doesnt' "hate" me but....

We are doing counceling as well, have you had a one-on-one with your MC yet? if not, each of you need to do so in order for 1. You to learn to cope with your H's feelings and 2. For him to talk about his depression with the MC.

I also felt that in the pursuit of his new job and of himself, I'm 3rd on the list and it hurts, I feel like I should be #1. Well, it aint' gonna happen right now, I'm sure you, like me, was hoping with all your heart for him to come back during those awful months they left, so it was a huge step they took by coming back and we should remember that. Also that the hard work continues for us.

Let's pray for us to detach and give them space, to bear with their moodiness and to remember that we've become better persons by this trial and that we are working for something worthwhile, that there are bound to be ups and downs.

Hang in there))))))) you can read my thread for great input from others on this very same subject.