Okay, let me throw this out quickly -- don't have too much time.
What's been bothering me about this H's whole self-loathing thing is this: I read somewhere that men fall in love with women because of the way the woman makes the man feel about himself. My H said the OW said all the right things to make him "feel good" about himself, built up his self-esteem (which, by the way, is nowhere to be found now! Funny how that works.)
So my question is: if I'm the source of my H's humiliation; if every time he looks at me he feels bad about himself, feels like a failure; if he feels he doesn't deserve me, isn't good enough for me, all the other crap I've written about before, how in the hell can he continue to love ME?
You see what I'm getting at? Are his bad feelings regarding himself which obviously involve me, killing his love? I hope I'm making myself clear. I'd really like any imput anybody has on this one.
