Matilda...do you ever wish you could get inside your H's head sometime just to see what he is thinking? [Confused] I do but then maybe I'd find out I didn't really want to be there [Roll Eyes] !! I think my H also was doing a lot more "loving" after the A to show me he really loved and desired me. And I needed it!! I also think that I needed to show him that I really loved and desired him too because we had both been so unhappy for so long and I know he was having some of the same doubts and fears I was having. Only thing was he decided to try and find answers with AP and I didn't [Mad] !! Anyway.... from what I read and hear on talk shows,the average couple makes love 2 times a week!! And it decreases with age so they say. So I figure we are way above average especially for a couple in their mid 50's!! [Wink] I know what you mean by not wanting to be the one to "bring the OW into bed with you". That was one of my biggest fears when I discovered the A and we were getting our PR back on track. I did manage to keep her out during the times we were making love but sometimes afterward I would find myself wondering and "comparing"...NOT A GOOD THING TO DO!! I don't do that anymore thank goodness!! I look at it this way...HE HAD SEX WITH THE WH**E and HE MAKES LOVE TO ME!!!! In fact he said it himself..he said that men have this ability to separate SEX and LOVE and women can't. He says that men can have sex with a woman and not love her (which is the way it was with the XOW) and they make love to the woman they love. Men....guess they really are from Mars [Big Grin] !! You just keep going the way you are and things will just keep getting better and better!! I know you can do it...you have already come a long way!! I have all kinds of faith and confidence in you!!
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