Quote: I stopped (arghh!!!!!) expecting to have sex with my H anymore because I don't want pity sex, I used to iniciate but after an argument he said he still didnt' feel much for me. My point is that maybe you should think about your physical relationship with him, we (women) read sex as love, obviously your H (and mine for that matter) dont' think so.
Well, first of all, he almost always initiates it. He says he's crazy for me that way, so it's definitely not "pity sex," because I know he wants it, too. Also, I'm the one who said that I thought we should remain sexual and that I was comfortable with that because we've been together so long. I felt it was a way to keep a bond with him. He may not feel as much love for me as I do for him, but keeping a sexual connection alive might open his heart up for more feelings in the long run. Or at least I'm hoping.
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Is MC an option? I see so many things in your H that my H went through (and some that he still is) the confusion, the depression. He need a therapist and you need a C you can talk to regularly. A plan of action is needed, he isn't really realizing how much his behavior is affecting you, he prob thinks all should be fine w/you since he is giving you sex and sustaining the kids.
MC is not an option right now. He refuses to go, even though he said years ago that if we ever had problems, he would do it.
