IMHO, your H's concept of "strong" is the same as what you expressed on your last thread. you have moral superiority over him, and he can't change that.
You could behave in an abhorrent manner, and after what he did, there's nothing he could say about it.
Don't know what you can do about it, Mattie. It's his issue, and he has to deal with it. All you can do is to behave in such a way that you don't perpetuate those feelings.
In other words, don't act in a way that can be construed as superior.
In his mind, the pendulum has swung the other way. Don't push it back. Just dampen it, and it'll slow down faster.
