Dear "SCARLETT", LOVE THE NEW THREAD!! You are doing GREAT so keep going the way you are and things will just get better and better!! I am at a point now where the thoughts don't come as often and now when they do I just "go with them". I let them kind of flow through my mind and then I tell myself, "He is here with me,he loves me,he never loved that B**CH,she's a LOSER,I'm a winner and there is no way a meaningless A with a B**CH IN HEAT is going to make my life unhappy anymore!!" Hey,it works for me!! Anyway,the thoughts will probably come and go throughout the years but they can't hurt me unless I allow them to. It may have been the wrong thing to do but I somehow managed to transfer the "ANGER" I was feeling from my H to the B**CH. That seemed to help me when dealing with the thoughts I was having. I know,I know I should be angry with my H but you know being angry at him was only impeding progress in our R. Being angry wasn't accomplishing anything. Letting him see the EXTREME HURT was far more effective than ANGER. So I can call her all kinds of names and think all kinds of nasty,mean,rotten and dirty things about her and it makes me feel better and keeps me from saying negative things to my H. Anyway,got things to do this morning so need to get off here. Matilda,er I mean SCARLETT take care,keep posting,keep moving forward, and remember,that like your "namesake", YOU ARE A STRONG,VIBRANT,BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AND YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU PUT YOUR MIND TO!!!!!!!! Pfroglady
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Anyway,the thoughts will probably come and go throughout the years but they can't hurt me unless I allow them to. It may have been the wrong thing to do but I somehow managed to transfer the "ANGER" I was feeling from my H to the B**CH. That seemed to help me when dealing with the thoughts I was having. I know,I know I should be angry with my H but you know being angry at him was only impeding progress in our R. Being angry wasn't accomplishing anything. Letting him see the EXTREME HURT was far more effective than ANGER. So I can call her all kinds of names and think all kinds of nasty,mean,rotten and dirty things about her and it makes me feel better and keeps me from saying negative things to my H. ![[Smile]](images/icons/smile.gif){kind=icon}
Anyway,got things to do this morning so need to get off here. Matilda,er I mean SCARLETT ![[Wink]](images/icons/wink.gif){kind=icon}
take care,keep posting,keep moving forward, and remember,that like your "namesake", YOU ARE A STRONG,VIBRANT,BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AND YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU PUT YOUR MIND TO!!!!!!!! 
