i posted on your thread in the MLC area, but being fairly new to this i'm catching on quickly and can see in others what i should be doing. does that make sense?
yep, you probably scared him by letting him know that you assume he wants to work on things. you probably hit the nail on the head. i would say the best thing to do is to go home, live life and don't bring anything up unless he does.
i think my H was overloaded with emotion this weekend. me telling him i need to go dark from his family and him telling me he really does want it to work out but is afraid of getting hurt. all we did was OR talk all weekend and i think he's backing away from it for the week. on the phone last night i said something about something and said, but that's about us and let's not talk about that now and he replied....exactly. he was very cold and distant and now wanting his time away again.
it's rough, someone told me it is easier if he's still in the house though. i guess i have the best of both worlds b/c he is coming home on the weekends but gets his escape during the week.
i still cannot find an answer to the question...and when do we get our turn to escape?! even if for a short time? and not finding sitters or anything, just walking away and leaving them holding the bag for a just a few hours of being in "our shoes".
just smile, be happy and live. i hope that helps and sorry i've rambled.
as for cleaning, check out www.flylady.net - it works! my house has been clean for well over 2 months.
