Tiel, I remember so clearly when my H told me he loved me again. It had been probably 9 years since he told me, and we had been separated 1 1/2 yrs (he left, in MLC, hated me, wanted divorce).
Those were the sweetest words to me. He said he hadn't told me that in a very long time, but he really meant it. I cried because I had been in such anguish and despair for the past 1 1/2 yrs of our separation, and I thought I would NEVER hear those words.
I read in several books that it is wise to take your time and not jump back into getting back together. I waited 2 months after my H woke up, and after I saw that he was serious and was taking positive steps to change (I was as well), THEN I told him he could give his 30 day notice at his apt. Then I had him wait 3 more wks before moving back. I told him I wanted a NEW relationship; one that worked. We had a bad marriage for about 15 yrs (out of the 19 when he left). But now we have a great marriage, and I am so thankful. But I work at it all the time, and so does my H. We really worked on our communications skills. That is where a lot of the problems in marriages come in.
