Please post a link to that story or simply post it in every section on this board and do it bold and in all caps. Yes, I must admit I am a man but have heard similar stories before. Have even experienced it at my house. It is like the old cereal commercial "try it you'll like it". Men, do your part also. If your W is going to me more open to it, be more open to her needs. We men sometimes focus too much on our own pleasure because of infrequentness. When it is more frequent our motivation turns more to giving pleasure than receiving. Therefore sex is much more fulfilling to W and she wants to participate more often. We all win!!! The problem it is a matter of "the chicken or the egg" and "it takes two to tango". How many marital problems start in the bedroom? I bet quite a few. If couples understood this phenomenon it could actually help some marriages dramatically. Rejection leads to resentment which leads to distance... I think you see where I am going with this. Wow I thought it was some rule that every woman HAD to read Cosmo. j.k.
Here is a quick story. My W was concerned that I was "looking" so she increased the frequency of our intimacy. I therefore got "better", enough so that she was then certain that I was cheating to have "learned" how to pleasure her like that. After much talking and reassuring she was comfortable that it wasn't another woman who helped our love life, it was her. Now years later when the marriage is difficult, the love life is one
Sorry to jump into your thread Andy but this topic hit way to close to home for me and probably many other Dbers.
