... and hates being away from me, then why on earth isn't he here?
Unlike so many of the people on this board, I have almost no end of positive communication from H ... he calls, IMs, texts ... full of ILYs and IMYs and 'good night' and 'good morning' and always sounding sad about not being with me. We had a really great time over much of last week ... went to the concert and saw the fireworks, went out another night to dinner and drive-in movie, had dinner by the pool at the place where he is "house-sitting" on another day, church on Sunday followed by lunch. All of this instigated by him.
So why is he still gone? I asked him that last night ...
Quote: H: I'm afraid of success followed by failure. Me: What does that mean? H: I'm afraid we'll end up in the same place again in the future.
So ... loads of positives, he loves me, he can see that I am making progress on myself and on some of the issues that I brought to the marriage ... but he's afraid of "success followed by failure." This is much the same thing that I have been hearing for four months ... since even before he moved out.
I don't know what to do or not do to try to break through this stalemate.
-- Kacee
P.S. I think he's still in contact with the OO, but they can't be spending much time together, seeing as how we have seen each other sooo much and H is still working two jobs. The OO will fade away ... that is something that I cannot control and will not worry about ... I will just wait the OO out.
