She was reticent to tell me the “issue”. I guess you had to be there, but she really wasn’t trying to escape responsibility. She didn’t ask me to change anything. She just said that she has to change her mindset, and that’s why there’s nothing I can do to help. When I said it was now our problem, what I meant was that it was no longer solely on my shoulders.
And, yes, she does have the desire to resolve things. She’s not hesitant. She’s just working through her feelings. I agree with you. Things are changing for the better.
The painful feelings are just growing pains. I know that we’ll make it through this. But like my W, I have to bear the pain. Logic doesn’t soothe the pain; it only helps me think that the pain will end.
I’m already feeling better today. It’s still pretty freaky, but I know that somehow, we’ll make it. I also agree with my W that, “at least we can talk about it.” Considering the fact that she held this inside for two weeks, this is good. It was I who wrangled it out of her. She thought I couldn’t handle it, and was pleasantly surprised that I did.
Duchess,
No. I don’t suspect that there’s anything “there” wrt MF. There were times, but those times are behind us. It may seem naïve, but I just know that there’s nothing there.
