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Originally posted by Phoenix:
Hey Andy - wonder what would happen if Andy didn't make the coffee one morning but instead brought a nice cold glass or orange juice or something like it with a little flower or goofy thing she likes. Or maybe Andy dresses up like a gorrilla or Marilyn Monroe when he bring the coffee to the groggy wife. Without any expectations.

I'm not kidding.

Andy,sounds like you put the gorilla suit on. [Big Grin]

I agree so much that our small changes can affect their behaviour.
EG.
Tues night, H went for a run..came back went for a swim in the pool.
Me trying to be the nice wifey takes him out a cold beer "Would you like a beer?"..."Not now, maybe later'..(this is kinda standard since bomb..I get responses like "Maybe","later","we could" if I offer him anything or suggest going out)
So last night, he's exercising..I have dinner cooking..I go out sit by the pool, drink a glass of wine and read the paper.Guess who comes out holding a can of beer, sits down and talks to me? (not for long)but there was the shift..small but important.

Duchess

[ May 16, 2002, 09:52 AM: Message edited by: Duchess ]