How do I behave around my cheating husband?

[cat03]

Hey therey, dont' beat yourself about how he met OW, you were just being a good wife by letting him have time w/friends, I also let my H spend the night elsewhere once a week thinking he was just playing basketball w/friends, he was in reality drinking and having contact w/the person who became OW later. Don't you blame yourself for ANYthing do you hear me? he isn't a child, he made his decision, and it could've happen any other time, not only that night.

As for the finances, I also was very aprehensive about how much I could ask from my H when he was away. Make a budget with exact figures and let him know how much is his responsability, if he says he doesn't have money just tell him that's how much child support would cost if you file for it. It did create some friction and my H wasn't happy either, but I didnt' let him off the hook on that one.

LIttle boys are very trying, my boy was very active and strong willed as well. Instead of sending him to his room where there are plenty of toys to keep him occupied, place a chair on a corner and have a timer, set it for 4min and tell him he can't get up nor play until the timer rings. When you correct him MEAN it, kids know when you aren't really going to carry out your sentence. Look him in the eye, and in a calm voice tell him what you want him to do/not do.

You'll do good tomorrow, act casual, dont' expect anything over all, you can make it with or without him, remember that. Hugs))))) hang in there.