Hi there, keep the appointment, please, you can bring it up casually to him a few days before it, but even if he doesn't go you should, unless you want another kind of T, you need to talk to a professional.
As for the picts and inlaws, don't put that burden on you yet, just deal with keeping your sanity right now, it's too much to think about right now.
My H also had an OW, talked about divorce and selling the house, it didn't look good at all, I didn't see the light of the end of the tunnel. I know all situations are different and some WAS come back, some dont'. It took my H about 8mths to hit rock bottom, he never gave me hope, other than going to C for a little while. Told me repeatedly he was too far gone and had nothing to offer me, that he felt empty and didn't think we could solve our problems. He is back w/me, still struggling with himself, we are slowly trying to find us again, it takes time. I ask you not to loose hope, but at the same time to find your inner strenght and be ready for anything, only time will tell.
It is mind boggling how the WAS can throw years of love with us and w/the children. When my H left he admitted he didnt' even think about the children, that's how lost he was, he just wasn't himself.
Hang in there))))))))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
