How do I behave around my cheating husband?

[MonicaP]

Thanks imLIN,

I am finally at the point of doing the research on divorce - you have given me a great place to start - thanks!

I also appreciate your encouragement and support. In my heart I know that - ultimately - I will be fine. I will move on and be happy again. I've already found some peace after nearly 1 year of DB'ing. What I am most afraid of is never being able to trust a man again. After years of failed relationships and finally being able to trust a man - namely my H - I feel like I'm right back where I started. I just can't imagine ever trusting another man again to the point that I would consider marrying again. This is the worst heartache I've ever felt and I think a large part of it is that we have a S4. I am afraid of ever going through this again and - God forbid - putting my S4 through it. It's not just me to consider anymore.

I really can't fathom my H coming around from the point he is at. He is starkly different. If he ever does it will not be before years of struggling I think. I would have never given up on him - "in sickness and in health" - but he has already told me that he gave up and doesn't think we belong together. I simply can't put my entire life's happiness on hold to wait for a very unlikely outcome.

If God has other plans - I will find out about it. In the meantime, as you said, I need to focus on S4 and my own well-being.

Please keep in touch - I know the hard part is about to come...

Thanks!