No he isn't, my H was aware he was knee deep in debt, and what did he do? he booked a plane and hotel for a trip to Vegas with OP. Don't assume ANYthing, they are very volatile and unpredictable. While my H had the on and off R with OP he'd reach out to me, I'd get him the drs he needed, would go to yoga classes because his T recommended it, etc etc, all the while he'd go back and forth into fantasy island w/OP, still trying to woe her.
Protect yourself, he is only looking for what's best for him; you have S4, you must think of him and yourself first as well. If anything, check your acct online each day.
I'm sure you've brought up during MC that you aren't ok with his A. At this point he might not be able to make up his mind, though it is a huge plus that he wants to find out why he sought out OW, but for your peace of mind I'd set a limit for yourself, set a goal, I totally understand your frustation in limbo. There was a time when Iwas there that I started to get unglued, in the outside I carried on normally, but then all these odd thought would assault me "I'm getting old" "I'm going to die" all sorts of things I never worried about obsesively before! My psyche was trying to redirect the hurt/uncertainty somewhere, and I"m telling you, I felt awful. It was my T who suggested I put a timeline for myself, so at least I had something to look forward to and so I would have a plan of action.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
