How do I behave around my cheating husband?

[cat03]

Hey there, was reading your post and could see my H doing and going through the same things your H went/is going through, the resemblance is amazing, I also never in my wildest dreams thought my H would leave me and have an OP. I've also been given the "I dont have money" while he'd put hundreds on his credit cards on outings and fun.
It isn't your fault he is mispending money and he shouldnt' short change you nor son (I managed to figure out how much my H had to give me according to child services.) Don't pity him on that acct, dont' let him get away from paying what he should. I don't know how you figured how much he should give you but I know CS has a website & you can figure it out.
Let him know how much is it and that you expect that much, period. Tell him you might have to file with CS since you can't let s4 go hungry because of his poor planning, that should give him a wake up call, that when you leave your family there are consecuences. I too wanted my H back but wans't going to let him screw me up financially. I'm surprised he still has his money going to your bank, watch out, my H empty our savings to get his appt.

About dating, I know your are feeling very vulnerable and want affection, reassurance and attention, but remember, that's how affairs started, that's how my H got OW, he was sad, vulnerable, confused and BLAM! she comes in like an answer, finally! someone he can open up to, a second chance to do things "right" since our M was messed up, an outlet to his misery, a distraction for his messed up head... the rest is history.

God counts every tear we shed, sending you hugs and praying that you detach, that you realize you can make it on your own and that you are STRONG, I pray that each morning you wake up with peace in your heart, knowing that God will lead you and is with you every single step of this horrible trial by fire, that you will come out the winner no matter what.

Huge hugs)))))))))))))))))))