*****Do you have a plan about telling W yet about A?
Yes and no....does that sound like a cop out??? Well it is. I know I do and will tell her about it. Just no plan yet.
****H reacted somewhat defensively saying he doesn't know whether he'll get bonus and doesn't want me to be disappointed if he doesn't.
RED FLAG!!!
****"well, there's no rush" (or something to that effect).
proof
****Is he that much of an a-hole I wonder.
First any H who has an affair is a selfish A-hole (me included). He is not thinking about finances. He is not thinking about next year; hell he is barely thinking about next week.
Think of it like an addiction. A drugee does not worry about the future...just right NOW and how to get the FIX and keep getting it.
****"oh, I'll just be one year older...it's not like it was when I was a kid...when I looked forward to my birthday"
OK I'm no Freud...I caught on to your thread midstream. I will go back and read more. But it sounds like something from his past is hanging on him.
