How do I behave around my cheating husband?

[MonicaP]

Hi Stilltryin,

Thanks for your post. I am truly happy for you! Do you know any specifics yet on how you will proceed? How awesome!

Yes, H and I did everything in the "right order" and - I believe - we loved each other very much. We practically walked on fire to be together and seemed to truly honor, respect and love each other.

Until some huge life stressors jumped in (new baby, financial, family, jobs, moving to another country, different roles, etc). We took it all on and, IMO, H cracked under the pressure. He just didn't/doesn't have the ego-strength, maturity, whatever you want to call it - to speak up about his inner turmoil.

What I fear the most is that he is "meant to be" with Ow. That I was just a stepping stone to this new R. I imagine them as happy as can be, suited for each other, etc. But I wonder what kind of person she is to want to be with married man w/ child, and a man that is struggling in every way. I wonder how she tolerates H being here 3 nights per week and all day Sunday. I wonder if she just a doormat for him, or the type of woman who will just do everything to please "him" in order to keep him. Well, I don't even know her name or anything about her - except that she is into Goth too, I've seen her picture, she was in a bad car accident in the Winter which had her in a coma for 1 month, she works, lives w/ a roomate, her mother has bi-polar disorder, and she's probably close to H's age (28).

Anyway, nothing new today. I went to my family's house in the country which was fun while H stayed home w/ S3.5. H asked whose birthday it was and when I said my neice's name he looked sad (they were very close and he knows that she misses him terribly). But, if he won't try for S, he won't try for neice.

One day at a time!

Thank you for your prayers.

Best of luck to you in your next adventure...