That is a great step for you! There were a couple times after realizing the critical behavior I had and neediness I showed, that I told my H I was sorry for what I had done, and that he was right about our marriage being miserable, and I take part responsibility for our destructive relationship, but that I did not take any responsibility for his A.

Anyways, I think that was a great thing that happened. Now you need to show him that you are sincere and prove him by your actions what you have appologized for, cuz now, hopefully, he will be "watching" you.

I almost feel bad about saying this to you, but I say it for the reason that my R with my H has never been right from the start. The whole time I never really was sure that he wanted to be married to me, but we had a child, and I think he partially did it to do the right thing. But last night he told me that he wants me to be his wife forever and he's sorry for everything that he's done.

I just really believe that what you guys had was real.. I mean you did everything in the right order. you had time to get to know each other, especially since it couldn't be sexual. Then you got M, and had time to live together b4 kids were involved. So, my point, is that you guys are meant to be together. And as you have stated, he has lost his identity and if he doesn't know who he is, he can't be your H now anyways.

I will pray for you and that your H will realize the grave he is digging for himself soon.

Keep your head up, you can do this!
Crissy

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."