I've "lost it" a couple times myself ~ thinking "that's it" ~ but here I am, still marrried and no D-bombs lately.
I don't regret the couple of times I've really gone off on H, I told him exactly what I think of what he is doing and exactly what I think of Ow. I do not want him confusing my patience w/ acceptance of his behavior. He should have a clear idea about what my value system is all about.
From here I would just pick up DB'ing and let him bring it up. My H hasn't brought up D on his own at all, but has agreed a couple of times in MC that he doesn't think we can make it. I will not help him along anymore w/ that line of thinking.
Anyway, good luck and don't worry about it - there are no accidents in God's world.
Monica
My sitch: Me 40 H 30 M 8 yrs 1 S5.5 Bomb Oct 2005 Sep Nov 2005 H w/ Ow I filed for LS June 2007 H responded w/ D 2007 I have sole P custody, joint L Just need to take care of Final Judgement papers
