Quote: ...is incredibly romantic and things he has never ever said to me even in the begining.
Just a general comment about this. I think this is the thing that gets to many of us as much as anything. The fact that the things they say and do with the OP are really what WE want to have them say and do with US.
I know for me, being honest, I can admit that I, in no way, fostered the kind of behavior I want from my W and that I THINK she gave to OM. I think this is another opportunity for us to look in the mirror and see if we REALLY expressed desire for and the behavior to GET what we SAY we want from our spouses. I KNOW I did not.
Does that mean they had the right to cheat? Hell no, but it DOES explain why the dynamic is different between them and OP and them and us.
