How do I behave around my cheating husband?

[MonicaP]

S3.5 had fever all day and since the night before last. H called this morning to check in and said he would check in again later. No call.

Saturday's are his 1 full day with Ow. Although we have an agreement that he calls S3.5 on the days he doesn't come over, H never calls on Saturdays. No explanation. Can't he get away from her for 5 min's just to check in!

I'm feeling so sad. I miss him and think we'll never have a chance to save our marriage and, more importantly, to have a stronger marriage. We were so devoted to each other and so grateful to have found each other - and now, poof! It was all a lie.

I just don't know where to go from here. Is this all I can do - detach? Just let him be and hope he comes to his senses? Sure, I can go on with my life, I've already made huge steps in the right direction - but then what? Meet someone else, pine for H, ignore R altogether, focus on anything but???

This limbo-land is a killer. Yet, am I really in limbo? Hasn't my H made it clear by his actions that he has chosen Ow and just wants to be friends with me??

So, my question is still this - am I making it too comfortable for H to walk away?

I'd love some feedback...