I haven’t posted for a while because everything in my relationship right now seems to be on some plateau where nothing seems to be happening or if it is, it is going (as you say) slowlee slowlee. At least things are not regressing and I am not back at square one. But (again as you say) things have the potential to drop back to square one quite suddenly and without warning. As a result, I have been keeping a low profile. Things seem to be slowlee getting better. At least they are not getting worse.
You mentioned about your wife getting a blood test and the concern that some of her problem is hormone based.
When my whole situation started, I suspected that much of my wife’s unusual and erratic behavior might be caused by hormone imbalances caused by going through menopause. She was in denial big time concerning her menopause. In her mind she had absolutely no hormone problem. In her mind, all of her problems were caused by me. (Some of this, you may remember, is documented in my now defunct thread-- Menopause & MLC ).
Eventually, I convinced her to visit a gynecologist and have her hormone levels checked and my suspicions were proven to be reality. The doctor prescribed estrogen replacement. Now after a few months with the estrogen, the doctor has also added progesterone. (I understand from the literature accompanying the medication that progesterone is the hormone responsible for female sexual drive much as testosterone is in the male).
She has been taking the progesterone for a little over two weeks at this point—not enough time to display any noticeable difference in either her behavior or attitude. Unfortunately, we tend to look for immediate results when medication like this is prescribed. But if any changes do occur, I expect them to come at a very slow and gradual rate.
I also believe that there is a lot of psychology involved here as well. Even if the hormone levels eventually get straightened out, I wouldn’t expect any drastic changes. Even if your wife’s attitude toward you and the divorce completely reverses, she may have said or done things publicly which could cause her to lose face or appear to have been out of control if she totally about-faces on issues where she had been so adamant.
Whoever first said that this was a long process couldn’t have been more right. Getting her to the doctor for tests is a positive step but it is not the final answer. But hopefully in your case (and in mine), things will eventually move out of this MLC/Menopause lunacy. We have no control over the process but what we can do is hope for positive results.
