Hope things are going better for you. I just got back in town and I'm trying to catch up on everybody. I know it is very frustrating to you that your W seems to be trying to blame you for the A. I do understand where you are coming from when you say you allowed the relationship to get to the point where she chose to have an A. I feel that is what I did also (with help from my H). He admitted from the beginning that it was NOT my fault that he had an A. He stressed that he made the choice,knowing it was wrong but he was to the point where he felt he had nothing to lose. He was unhappy and stressed out and said he really didn't care about anyone,anything or even himself. He called himself an A**H*** and I heartly agreed [Wink] !! I really think your wife knows deep down that she made the decision to have an A on her own and she can't blame anyone but herself. I guess that some people just can't accept responsibility for their own actions. Hopefully she will. You seem to be doing good and I am hoping and praying that things continue to look up for your and your family. Keep us updated.
pfroglady