The meeting with my parents went as best as can be expected. I got a bit beat up when my W tried to explain to my folks the reasons why she walked away. It was painful to hear those words coming from my W's lips.
Newcomers to DB should take heed. My W said in no uncertain terms that she didn't think my changes were real. She said that she didn't think that a man could change after 18 years. Not until she believed that my changes were not just a show, did she start to come around. This is very important to those of you just starting out. You must live the changes, not talk about them.
It took my W only 7 months to return to our family. It seemed like forever. Be very patient. Don't push the OR stuff. Let her want to come back. Give her plenty of space. Let go!
Things started to get better fo me when W moved in with OM. It was the beginning of the end. Their honeymoon lasted only 2 weeks before W moved back home. 2 weeks after that she said she wanted to give our R a try. That was New Years Eve. Today, I can say that the divorce has been busted!
The entire process will take time. But hang in there, the rewards are worth the wait (and the work).
