John,
Your post sort of leapt out at me this morning! I'm sure that it stung that W lied to you, but I think you should probably drop the incident and just keep your eyes open. It sounds like most of the trouble is being stirred up by the other side.
W might have been afraid of how you would react if she told you about OM showing up at her place of employment. I would saying being calm and observant should do it. Be you really want MY advice given my indecision lately, huh? [Wink]

rayanne