You said: "The hardest thing is knowing how much younger they were than me - about 10 years OUCH. That't the one thing they had that I can never give my H - youth"
Youthfulness has nothing to do with age... remember that. It's what's inside that counts. There will always be someone younger, better looking...whatever... but those things change with time . Those women will not always be young... but unless they decide to change they will always be what they are... ONS material.
Let your light shine brightly... that's your true beauty and will only attract the best for you.