H has no desire and I have no libido

[Jen_Jam]

Hi Lillie - thank you for the clarification.
I'm not giong to leave - H and I don NOT want to D, we do want to find a way through this. I have stated that I would life a fulfilling sex life. I know that if I move on the problems will follow - I realise that life is trying to teach me a lesson and I need to have my ears open to hear it.
Ideas - not much, will do the therapy but also will think heard about things I have said/done may have contributed to this.
H's LD is, I believe, down to the fact I had LD for so long that he ended up feeling rejected - I can clearly see that, I often told him I had LD but still loved him, I should have found help for my LD because I don't want to be LD.
I do want to find a way through this but will keep the motto I've kept through this whole situation - "go slow and take it easy".
thank you all for your help and do keep in touch.