The day after our bomb we kissed. I said, "well" and he said "nothing". By the end of the week I was the one who said that we needed to see if we were compatible in bed. We were and that has only gotten better for us.
The time came when the roller coaster of emotions got going when I thought about the two of them kissing. I did vomit. I got a bad headache and felt nauseated for the entire day. I guess that served as my physical purge of her.
When you are in bed w your H you want to focus on pleasuring each other. This is not a time to be thinking about the kids, the house, the ow, the dog, the car won't run, etc. Be in the moment w this man that you love. Enjoy yourself. When the afterglow is done and you'r back in the world just make sure that ow is on the bottom of your thought list. Tax season is just over so put her below taxes for 2002. You know.
I wanted to talk about ow one time to many and finally gave myself a boundary. If he brings her up ok. If I bring her up then I get to go scrub toilets. For awhile there we had the cleanest of toilets in town. Just get her out of your mind and keep her out. She is poison.
I'd encourage you to read David Deida on the net. I like it. It makes me blush to read it but I like his message about opening yourself to love even if your angry. You'll want to visit his free excerpts for 'Dear Lover'.
If you are Christian I can supply you with some scriture references that might help you in forgiving her. By forgiving her by faith you protect your own hearth from being bitter. Works for me.
Good luck and glad you made it to this other side!!!!!
