imL, thanks for that great insight, I guess things will be different, and me pushing for what was isns't going to help anybody, I want him to do things for me if he really means it, it wouldnt' mean much for me if he were to make a huge deal out of an event and not have his heart in it, you are so right.
Jag, I had a great session!! I had this concept about H so deep in my head that I didnt' see it from another angle, as we dicussed the two events that prompted us to fight last week I saw how my incapacity to cooperate and follow and ask him questions led me to believe he was just being a jerk. *SIGH* i was so sure of his mistakes that I didnt' really saw what I was doing myself.
Oh! it was amazing, just the same day I read imL's post about what her H said, the C asked us what positive things happened to us. I mentioned how I dont' have the resentment I had before and it felt better being together. My H actually said "I feel better when I come home, I like it better"
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
