It has been a long road....a long time....but if I had held onto my pain and anger I know without a doubt my H would not be in my life.....nor would he be around for our children...
But none of this will happen over night....I have been piecing now for 7 months.....but it is much more rewarding to be piecing then to be crying alone every night....
imLIN, you are obviously farther ahead in this chain of thought than me, I'm still putting the final bricks on the tomb of past hurts. I blew it on Sun., it was my b-day you see, and H knew the date but didnt' realize it was this past Sunday. Every year he'd plan so far ahead it was almost silly, made a big deal and got me something good weeks ahead. This year he realized on sat. that my b-day was the next day, still hadn't gotten me anything either. When he was dating OW he had her b-day on his calendar, wrote what kind of cake he'd get, and spent hundreds on a ring he designed (he ended up keeping it)
I was so upset comparing the two sitchs and I actually threw that on his face, I regreted it later but I couldnt' help it. Guess I"m still 1% still jelous about OW.
Anyways... it really hit home, what your H said to you, I want my H to say that to me, I dont' think he'd say that now, I'm really working on it though! I'll keep that phrase in mind
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
