sort of new here..WAH came back,I feel so unloved

[wed2alien]

Cat,

I hope you feel better. Sometimes we have to rant and beat our head against the wall to get it all out. You are right, you have a right to be upset and angry about OW. But it is in the past and needs to stay there.

I know you are ready to move forward, and leave that unhappy chapter of your M behind. Don't waste another minute tormenting yourself. It happened, its over, and move forward.

Remember your H was with YOU at the movies. He must be trying. It is hard to want the affection and romance but I believe others are right when they say it will come with time.

I called a DB counselor 2 yrs ago and one thing I remember her saying (she was a WAW) is that once she got back with her H, it took her a year to have "feelings" for her H again. A year of doing things with him, holding hands, and other stuff I presume. She said it is very gradual but feelings do follow actions.

I have to tell myself that all the time as my H is not affectionate or he tries but I can tell his heart isn't in it. Have to remember not to push or insist on our needs being met yet I guess. Hard as heck!!

So keep focusing on you and H and doing things together. If OW pops in your head, envision a big red stop sign and stop the thought!! You have control over your thoughts!!

It sounds like things are going good.

wed