Cat well, its good and bad to find you. I like to see posts from you b/c I like to know how you are doing, but I wish that you were doing better. I know nothing about ADHD from my own experiences. I wish you the best. get yourself out to the weekend encounter. It runs through the Catholic Church, and its on a donation basis. If you can afford it, pay, b/c there are so many that need to go and cannot afford it. If you can't afford it, talk to them, they will not turn you away. There are follow up's after the weekend. Your going to find help there that nobody else can give. I say all that like and expert. Never been. Just know that it is good. The only caveat that I have ever heard is that both partners have to go into it with an open heart. Cat, you are a wonderful caring and giving person. I will continue to pray for you every day.