I am so sorry you guys are having a hard time getting back on the right track. I am glad counseling is helping but obviously more is needed. Are you still praying? You have to keep it before the Lord. You know I would tell you that .
Listen, I just finished a book that may interest you. It's called "The Solo Partner - Repairing Your Relationship On Your Own". See if you can pick up a copy. I got mine off Half.com for about $8. It has alot of good info & ideas. It also has worksheets for you and your spouse.