Hey, cat! I've always said that the hardest part of DBing begins once we start noticing positive changes in our R. But that's when DBing really counts the most. Your H is home; now is the time to start *showing* him (not telling him) about your changes. As someone else stated, invite him out one night. If he doesn't go, then you go by yourself. There's nothing more attractive than an independent, happy person.
A lot of times, once we have our Ss back, we push a little harder and forget all the DB "tips." We feel like the DBing efforts are over. Wrong. They've only just begun. Work the DBing principles now more than ever, while your H is home to take notice.
You're doing fine; just keep rolling with the punches.
BTW, when my H came home, things *did* go back to the wonderful way they were months before he left ... only better. But I can assure you of something: it didn't make my lousy feelings and suspicions go away. In fact, I would argue that at times, it made things worse. I always wondered if my H was hiding something because he seemed *way* too happy to be back home ... like nothing had ever happened.
If nothing else, be happy that your H is letting you know how he feels. Even though it isn't what you want right now. At least you know where things stand at the moment. And if you know what you're up against, you're much better poised to do something about it. Just remember to keep the focus on you.
