Pat-its been so ong since your H has promised to be faithful and yet you still have moments of doubt. Mine has been back 5 months and has not given me any reason to doubt he is telling the truth that it is over-I believe him because I know of the circumstances, and he does not want her life. Still......once trust is broken it takes a very long time to rebuild I am learning. The first 9 months all I did was have panic and anxiey attacks. I seem to be getting better with those as I trust him more. DId you have them? Tell me your process of getting to where you trusted again and what you did when those darn self doubts came up and you were just sure he was calling her even though yout head said you have no proof and he's acting like he wants to be home. The whole affair erodes so much. It takes our reasonble thinking away from us for such a long time. I am REALLY working on letting go and just beleivieng he is telling the truth. I just need some help with those times I start obsessing. ANd the big red stop sign does not work very well for me becausee I go into panic mode and need reassurance from him,but I can't call him all the time asking him for it. When its really bad I do call him and he is good about talking to me and reassuring me and then you still wonder....he lied for so long..is he still? and then you think we had 27 yrs of faithfullness-this just hapened and I have to deal with it-so..since your further down the road than me can you help on this at all?? Thanks, Rachael M.
