KTF...Was so happy to read your post! I am glad that in some way I was some help to you. I know you are being cautious about things right now. It has been a year and 5 months since my H broke off his A but there are times when this little voice in my head goes places I really don't want it to go. I try everyday to believe what my heart is telling me.."I can trust him". Only someone who has been where we have can understand that. I know in my heart I forgave him but trusting again is the hard part. My heart is telling me he has not been in touch with her or heard from her since July 2001 when he wrote and told her they could not even be friends but sometimes my head starts making me wonder. I never tell him about those times. He has tried everything he can to reassure me and I know other than not having contact there is really nothing else he can do. It is up to me to believe him and it is up to me to find my way to the point of complete trust. I am happy to hear that the XOW is out of your lives. I know when my H finally got the message that an EA was just as bad as a PA and put the XOW completely and totally out of the picture it was like a load had been lifted from my heart.
Like your name says...KEEP THE FAITH!! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to pray that everything contiues to move forward for you and your H!!!! pfroglady (Pat)
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I try everyday to believe what my heart is telling me.."I can trust him". Only someone who has been where we have can understand that. I know in my heart I forgave him but trusting again is the hard part. My heart is telling me he has not been in touch with her or heard from her since July 2001 when he wrote and told her they could not even be friends but sometimes my head starts making me wonder. I never tell him about those times. He has tried everything he can to reassure me and I know other than not having contact there is really nothing else he can do. It is up to me to believe him and it is up to me to find my way to the point of complete trust. I am happy to hear that the XOW is out of your lives. I know when my H finally got the message that an EA was just as bad as a PA and put the XOW completely and totally out of the picture it was like a load had been lifted from my heart. 
