I have tried to tell my H so many times that his actions will show me that he loves me,appreciates me and the things I do for him and show me he has completely put the XOW out of our lives. But there are times when I just need to hear the words. Oh,he tells me everyday several times a day "I LOVE YOU" but I mean I like to hear him tell me "thank you or I appreciate what you do". I am past the point where I need him to tell me the XOW hasn't been in touch but there are times when I need to discuss our R and that sometimes includes talking about her and the A. A lot of men are like my H...they hate talking about things over and over but they need to try and understand that they hurt us deeply and in order for us to heal and learn to trust they must discuss the things we need to talk about. Yes,sometimes it hurts and the answers I get hurt but that helps heal. Hope you are feeling better!! PAT
