Rachael...sorry to hear your PMA is down today!! Don't let that throw you off though!! You will have days like that...I still have the ocassional one even after a year and a half. I think it is normal after what we've been through. The trick is to not let it obcess you and make things harder. Wish I had the magic formula for it but I don't. You just have to keep telling yourself that the A is over and your H loves you or he wouldn't be with you. My H doesn't communicate his feelings very well (never has..goes back to his childhood) so I have to kind of judge if he is happy (he does act happy and he is different from when we were having problems) and every now and then I have to ask if things are good for him. We had that discussion the other day and he assured me that everything is great. While we were both unhappy (before A) I noticed our sex life had slowed down but it was still good. I chalked a lot of it up to getting older and my weight problem. The during the A things stayed the same so I really had no clue he was seeing someone else (helped that she was in another state). It picked up a lot after the A. I think a lot of that had to do with the fact that I was ready to intimate with him right away. Think that may have surprised him. During the A he never stopped telling me everyday that he loved me and he never stopped hugging and kissing me whenever he left for work and got home. I guess if those things had stopped I would have wondered. But when he told me that he had never stopped loving me I knew that was why the affection had never stopped. I wish I knew what to tell you. Everyone is different and everyone's feelings are different. Some people get over things quicker but that doesn't mean you won't get over it. You just have to stay strong,continue doing the things you have been doing if they seem to be working and as for trusting he has broken off all contact with the OW,I can only tell you that you have to make that determination for yourself. You know your H better than anyone else and only you can decide if he is being honest with you. It took me a very very long time to even start trusting and even now I have the ocassional "I wonder if..."! I don't quesion my H anymore and I never ask if he has heard from her anymore. But I know my H well enough to know that by continuing to question him is not a good thing. He feels that it is over and he has put it behind him and he doesn't like to even think about it. He is the type that once he makes a decision he sticks to it. That is one reason I feel that I can believe he has not had any contact with her. But I also believe him because I can feel it in my heart. That is something you have to feel for yourself. I know that I am doing everthing I can to make our R happy and strong and he is working at it too so that helps the trust come back. I pray a LOT and that helps me so much!! Remember that I am here for you to offer any support or help I can and I will keep you and your H in my thoughts and prayers!! PAT