Since I lost 80 pounds I now feel much better about myself and my H has told me how pround he is of me. I bought me some really sexy things and he REALLY appreciated that [Big Grin] !! When I bought them I was with my young daughter-in-law and she told me that she was so proud of me..the sales lady asked if the items were for my DIL and when I told her they were for me she kind of looked at me like what would a woman my age be wanting that stuff for!! I looked at her and said "I may be 54 but I feel 34 and I act 24!!" I told her to try it on her H and she might be surprised at the reaction she got!! [Big Grin] Anyway...My H is also the type that likes to be appreciated and I had stopped doing that and eveidently the XOW filled in for me [Mad] !! Believe me that will NEVER happen again!! I also make sure I tell him "thank you" when he does little things for me (even when I have to ask him to do some things). I don't know about all men but I know my H loves having his ego stroked so I tell him how sexy I think he is,I tell him how good he looks when he gets all dressed up and I tell him what a good lover he is (he really likes it when I send him a sexy email thanking him for making me feel so good [Wink] !!). Sounds like you are right on track and things are going really great for you!! Keep it up!! Pat