Lily, I'll take that challenge. 21 days. You may have to get me through some of them but I think I cna do it-I've gone at least 14 before with no mention of her. I can do this. HE has made the commitment of no contact. I just have to let it go and beleive him. Sine we talked about it today tomorrow will be day # 1 ok? That means until August 22. Wow, that seems a long way off but he will appreciate it and I will also get to see if he does what he says he will do which is reassure me without mew having to ask for it. That will be a stretch for him-but a good one. Thanks! Rachael M.