Hello Pfroglady, This is my first time here and I have been blessed reading so many of your postings...I think you and I and our painful experiences have been on a similar timeline. My H and I do love each other so much, and he is doing everything in his power to help me trust him again. I try so hard to forget what he did...he didn't love the OW, I know and believe that...but it still hurts so much that he did what he did and deceived me about it. He acknowledges responsibility for the problems we used to have in our relationship...he always refused to go to counseling then, but now he has gone several times (we haven't gone for quite a while now) and things are really, really great. Actually, in a strange way, now that things are so great, it makes thinking about what he did even more painful. Do you have any suggestions for putting the painful thoughts out of my mind? I hate how much I still think about it. I have thoughts of wanting to humiliate the OW in some way, even though I know I will never do it. I wish she knew how much my H loves me and loved me even when he was with her...I want her to feel hurt, even though I know she probably is hurting...I just wish I could forget it all!!! I think trustin God each day, and doing lots of praying are probably the key. Anyway, it feels good to "talk" with others who have suffered too. You have such an inspiring spirit in your words!
