pfroglady, I've read quite a bit of your stuff here and on others threads that you've replied to. Congratulations on your sit. just getting better and better. A rundown of my story is at the "I need Support" BB, on page 2 now entitled "is he coming around". I too hope to be able to consider our sit. getting and better and better. My H is attentive and affectionate a lot of the time lately. There was EA (I think,anyway)but he swears they were (are) just friends and that she would say the same. According to him they don't communicate anymore. I don't like that he was talking to this person about us ( he says she did most of the talking and it was about her screwed up stuff). But I do have to take some of the responsibility for not being there for him when I should have been. I am now!! I compliment him and show appreciation all the time. I took "us" for granted for a long, long time but no more. I still have feelings of insecurity sometimes and my imagination gets away from me when I think of "her". ( I don't know her). I need to shake this thing I guess. I just figure that I'm the one he lives with and comes home too, and sleeps with and everything else. the intimacy never stopped between us, even when he was claiming to not love me anymore. He never moved into a different room either or out of the house. I'm the one who did that! Like I said on my post, I'm trying to be more of a girlfriend to him now. When we first married he continued to refer to me as his girlfriend for quite a while. Not because he didn't respect me being his wife but because he still felt that way. I want that back! I've been DB'ing for 5 months now and it has paid off. He has noticed the changes and the first few months of this "crisis" he told me that he didn't think it would stick and that people don't just change. I told him then that maybe he wasn't counting on me changing because it makes it harder for him to D me. He said not one word to that. I think I hit the nail on the head with that comment. Any insight for me since you seem like a wiser? Take care, Lisa
