Matilda...I have thought and thought about the XOW and why I have all this anger toward her and these feelings that I'd like to hurt her. I realize that my H was in a bad place and if he hadn't cheated with her he would have found someone else. I don't think she was all that great but she did tell him things he needed to hear and she gave his ego a boost. I guess the thing is that she knew he was married. I am sure he told her a lot of crap about our relationship and she chose to believe every word out of his lying cheating mouth. She decided that she wanted him and it really didn't matter to her if he was married or not (I still think that she was desperate for a man [Razz] !!). Some women are just that way I guess! [Mad] I checked out this site where TOW go to tell their tales [Eek!] and it is sickening!! These women make themselves out to be so hurt and betrayed it makes you want to throw up!! I found myself wondering if the WH**E my H had a fling with visited this site. I know I am fortunate in that she didn't try to cause trouble after my H ended the A. She did try to get her D to try and stir things up when he told her that they couldn't be friends and that all communication was over. But I am glad that she didn't try to tell me things or send me things I'd rather not have heard or seen. I still have these thoughts of telling her things but even that is fading away. She just really doesn't matter..she is less than nothing to me. I guess I will never understand why a decent woman would mess around with a married man. There are plenty of single men out there!! I know that even though my self esteem was low and I was so unhappy and depressed the thought of finding a man to tell me things to boost my ego and make me feel good never crossed my mind!! I know there are women that do but it is just not me. We are gonna make it Matilda... we are just too strong and we love our men too much not to!! [Wink]