HI EVERYBODY! I have something I would like to get some thoughts and opinions on. Yesterday I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about marriage,men,etc.,etc. (keep in mind that she doesn't know that my H had an A..I haven't told ANYONE I know). She brought up the subject of H's cheating. She is one of those people that believes that "once a cheater,always a cheater". I told her that I believe that even though there is NEVER an excuse for cheating I feel that circumstances could lead someone to be tempted to have an A. I also believe that if the difficulties in the marriage are fixed and there is love,a spouse can be faithful from then on. What do you think? I am finally at a point where my heart is telling me that my H wouldn't cheat on me again. I believe that we have addressed the problems we were having and we have eliminated them. She also said that she didn't think a man could resist temptation. I would like to believe that there are men (and women) out there that can remain faithful no matter what happens in their marriage. I used to think that my H was one of those people but boy was I ever wrong!! He was tempted and he was in a place in his head where he gave in to the temptation. I wanted to tell her that I knew for a fact that no matter how unhappy or depressed or how many problems you are having in your marriage there are some people that can remain faithful because I was one of them!! But I just really didn't want to tell her about that part of my life. I just told her that I believed that it is possible to be tempted but resist that temptation and be true to your vows. So let me know what you think. Are there some of you guys (or ladies) out there that have been tempted and resisted? I'd like to know that I am not alone in my beliefs!! I asked a couple other friends what they thought and they tended to agree with the first friend!! pfroglady
