Hi Pfroglady, I'm so happy things are working out for you and your husband.I wouldn't try contacting the ow it's not good for you in the healing process let that go. I know your husband said to do what you got to do, but I think she knows that your husband wants you and she was just a toy he used when he thought the other toy was broken:) My husband and I have been back together for 8 months after his 4 month affair. He has told me he is truely sorry for everything and wants me to put it behind us. Iam I have forgiven him although I will never forget it. But the problem with us now is that I'm on egg shells and so is he. He is in Japan now for work just a week he will be home on Wed. He calls me everyday and we talk and say we love eachother but I feel as though he is not trusting me, he asked me what have you've been doing I tell him the truth I have three kids I'm doing the normal mother routine. We just got done talking and he was really kind of cold on the phone. I know he has not talked to her since July. Because I still ask him questions, and he says believe me you would know your a great PI. But he is in Japan and he could easly talk to her. Because the way it ended was I made him call her in front of me and he told her that he has some bad news for her that he is with his wife right know and I am making him call her in front of me. Told her that he hasn't given us a chance and he owes that to me and the kids.Needless to say she was at the ended of our street three days later and said she loves him, I really don't know what he said to her. He told me he told her it was over and she needs to go back to her husband and work things out.Don't know if that was all that was said he told me that he saw her so I guess I have to believe that. I talked to her husband that day and he said she is upset because he promised her so many things.I asked my husband what he promised her and he said I never promised her a damn thing.See my husband makes great money and we live in a beautiful house that she has seen when I was up north with the kids,when the affair was going on,she also seen how much he made.She don't live in a nice house and she always complained at work that her husband didn't make nothing. They worked at the same shop,my husband and her. Needless to say when this affair was going on she got fired, because my fatherinlaw owns the shop. My husband paid for her insurance for a month until her husband insurance went int affect. He told me he did that because if anyting would of happened to her or her kids or her husband he would feel guilty. My question to him was didn't you feel guilty messing around with there mother. I feel he could of cared aless about me and the kids. We were also going through a divorce. We both filed in the beginning of June. He came back to me the second week of July.So much more but I have already bored you with enough. Thanks for reading. God Bless any advice??????????
