Thanks so much for responding, Gabriel! Nice name, I just about named my son that.

I had to look up the abbreviations thread to understand GAL and Dbing. lol Still not sure about MC...

I am doing a lot of reading on the threads and seeing that Getting a Life is key to all of this. I did so well with this for the first few months, but then I slipped into a bit of depression, stopped jogging, stopped socializing, hid away in my bedroom with my t.v. and laptop.

If I honestly take a look, I know letting go of the anger against my husband for leaving is important. So I can work at that while rebuilding my life.
But when people reconciliate, isn't there a plan of some sort? Isn't it kind of weird he thinks it's fine I date other men? This makes me wonder if he really wants to reunite or not. If I could have some kind of sign that he's sincere, like an interest in counselling. Otherwise, what do I have? I guess it comes back to GAL and quit thinking about whether he has a plan or not. Does GAL include dating? Or is that crazy if you want to reconciliate? I dated one guy in the hopes to get over my Ex but it didn't work, I only missed him more. Kept thinking, oh man, this poor guy's a bore compared to my Ex.
K, I am now officially going to get a life.

thanks again and I'm glad to be here.

Some days my name should be Dementia not Demetria