Re Mrs. Nop Here are some of my boundaries:
That is so www.marriagebuilders.com

Another good web site. Lots and lots of questionnaire's for the W and H to use to evaluate where they are and where they want to go with the M.

I have wondered if we don't run our issues through our heads almost continuously often leaving us with the false impression that we are actually conveying to our spouse the depth of the issues and/or misery with which we are dealing.
I find deflection and "I am different and entitled to my own opinion" to be the 2 huge problem.

Lou